Exploring the Benefits of the Meta-View
In my work as a hypnotherapist, helping my clients let go of old anger, hurt, disappointment, pain, and tears has been the most important in supporting them to move forward in life. I do this by teaching how to take the ‘Meta-View’.
In the Meta-View the client is able to look at the circumstances of their life from a different perspective.
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So, what is a new perspective? It means stepping out of your point of view of what happened and how you feel about it. A rising above, of sorts, to see things from an expanded perspective, including the other person’s point of view. When we rise above, we are able to see the whole picture – the entire situation.
Developing this ability happens at different ages and has much to do with the forming of empathy. For children with ADD or ADHD, this may be more difficult. However, parents and teachers can help by sitting with a child and asking questions about what the other person might be feeling, and what may have caused this behavior. This may help them begin to see another view besides their own.
However, even as adults, we sometimes have difficulty seeing a situation except through our own vision. For example, have you ever had an argument with a friend and find yourself in denial about what they did or said? We may even stop being friends with them for a period of time…from a few days to months to years, or maybe even forever. Even those of us who are empathic may carry anger about various situations.
The way a parent treated us as a child, or a teacher that hurt our feelings, or a boss that belittled us, or a sister or friend that hurt our feelings or disappointed us. This anger is like a cancer that can fester inside of us negatively coloring our view of and confidence in ourselves and everyone else.
Part of the work that I do with the majority of my clients has to do with Forgiveness. During the forgiveness hypnosis, the client visualizes putting the perpetrator of their hurt into a chair opposite them where, uninterrupted, they tell this person how they were hurt by them. How what they did has caused them pain, tears, anger and disappointment in their life and how they are tired of carrying this hurt around. After they get all their feelings out, we proceed to the healing portion where they visualize hearing from the perpetrator and what was going on in their life.
This is NOT an excuse, but rather an explaining. In this “explanation” the client is able to see this huge monster as just another human who is often pretty messed up themselves. Their life has been full of hurt and pain as well. Most often, they apologize for the hurt they have caused. Now, this does not mean that every perpetrator explains or apologizes (although most do). No matter what, the client is able to now see things from a different view and are able to, at last, let go and forgive.
What does this forgiveness do? It changes everything. The kind of forgiveness we do in hypnotherapy doesn’t mean liking the person who hurt you, forgetting what the hurtful person did, telling them you forgive them in person, or condoning their actions. What this kind of forgiveness does is helps you let go and not feel like it is your responsibility to be the jail-keeper for this person. Everyone is freed.
Taking the Meta-View allows you to rise out of your own pain and rhetoric and see things from a whole new perspective. If you are holding onto old pain that you are ready to let go of, it often helps to have a guide on the path to freedom.
I would love to be your guide and assist you in letting go and finding freedom – no matter what the pain. Please feel free to set up a 30-Minute Discovery Session to see if hypnosis is right for you.
Best of all – there is no pain – it is totally free.
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