"Care about people's approval and you will be their prisoner. Do your work, then step back, the only path to serenity.” ―Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching This quote most likely resonates with most of us. Yet, we continue to walk around, whether we know it or not, seeking approval. Am I good enough? Likeable enough? Pretty enough? Thin enough? Am I dressed right? What about my hair? What if someone does not approve of you? What if they shun you for being diffe … [Read more...] about You Are Not Broken
Like most of you, I was horrified to witness what happened to our Capitol this past week. Because of manipulated and hateful rhetoric by a narcissus and his cronies, we have witnessed for the first time in American history the transfer of power being interrupted by gangs and hoodlums. Because of this, 5 souls have lost their lives. These are dark times, indeed. And yes, this all has proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that our country is divided. However, I cannot believe that this is the end … [Read more...] about Healing After National Trauma
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies." -- Nelson Mandela Are there people and events taking up space in your mind rent free? More than likely, the answer is YES for most of us. But, how and why does this happen? When we hold anger or resentment with someone or something from our past, these things keep getting our attention. It usually happens when least expected. We’ll hear, smell, or experience something that triggers us to recall that situat … [Read more...] about Unlock the Door to Freedom
Some days are just a "one piece in the puzzle kind of day"! A client was sitting on the couch in front of me. She sighed and said, “Some days are just a one piece in the puzzle kind of day!” I laughed out loud – what a wonderful metaphor. I could totally wrap my brain around the concept. I also loved that it felt successful. Even if you only accomplish one thing in a day, that one thing can be mighty significant. The concept came to her as she navigated her way through a series of li … [Read more...] about One Piece in the Puzzle
3 Ways to Talk Nice! Self-talk has been a topic of those in the healing field for a long time. So, long in fact, that I thought “everyone” knew about self-talk and how it truly affects ones thinking about themselves. And yet, day after day, it is proven to me by my clients that there is still not enough talk about self-talk. What is self-talk? Basically, it is exactly as it sounds – how you talk about yourself to yourself. Far too often we are extremely critical of ourselves – and we let … [Read more...] about Talk Nice!