Gaslighting is a form of abuse when another person denies what you are experiencing and states this denial in a way that makes you think you might be crazy. Common gaslighting phrases are: Are you sure your memory is correct? I never said that. You’re being too sensitive. That never happened. You’re imagining it. It’s your fault. I'm only kidding. And so many, many other phrases that all signify that something is wrong with you. Gaslighting is a way of contro … [Read more...] about Are You a Victim of Gaslighting?
Exploring the Benefits of the Meta-View In my work as a hypnotherapist, helping my clients let go of old anger, hurt, disappointment, pain, and tears has been the most important in supporting them to move forward in life. I do this by teaching how to take the 'Meta-View'. In the Meta-View the client is able to look at the circumstances of their life from a different perspective. According to Wikipedia: “Perspective-taking is the act of perceiving a situation or understanding a c … [Read more...] about A New Perspective
Does this sound familiar? I do everything I can think of. I eat a healthy diet. I don't eat enough food and still can't lose the pounds. My calorie intake is hardly anything. I exercise. Why can't I lose weight? More and more we are beginning to understand that weight loss is not always about what you eat or how much you exercise. Yes, these things are important. You are what you eat! Eating lots of vegetables, fruits, nuts, seeds, and any foods that are on the outside … [Read more...] about Why Can’t I Lose Weight?
"Care about people's approval and you will be their prisoner. Do your work, then step back, the only path to serenity.” ―Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching This quote most likely resonates with most of us. Yet, we continue to walk around, whether we know it or not, seeking approval. Am I good enough? Likeable enough? Pretty enough? Thin enough? Am I dressed right? What about my hair? What if someone does not approve of you? What if they shun you for being diffe … [Read more...] about You Are Not Broken
Like most of you, I was horrified to witness what happened to our Capitol this past week. Because of manipulated and hateful rhetoric by a narcissus and his cronies, we have witnessed for the first time in American history the transfer of power being interrupted by gangs and hoodlums. Because of this, 5 souls have lost their lives. These are dark times, indeed. And yes, this all has proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that our country is divided. However, I cannot believe that this is the end … [Read more...] about Healing After National Trauma
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies." -- Nelson Mandela Are there people and events taking up space in your mind rent free? More than likely, the answer is YES for most of us. But, how and why does this happen? When we hold anger or resentment with someone or something from our past, these things keep getting our attention. It usually happens when least expected. We’ll hear, smell, or experience something that triggers us to recall that situat … [Read more...] about Unlock the Door to Freedom