It might sound like this... I hate myself! Why do I always say stupid stuff? I am so fat! I am ugly! I’m lazy! What’s wrong with me? No one likes/loves me. I am not worthy of good things. I should be a better spouse/parent/friend. Own Worst Critic Sound familiar? I bet we have all engaged in this type of behavior against ourselves at some point in our lives. Sometimes it depends on the day. Sometimes we look in the mirror and hate everything about ourselves. We can … [Read more...] about Do You Bully Yourself?
Gaslighting is a form of abuse when another person denies what you are experiencing and states this denial in a way that makes you think you might be crazy. Common gaslighting phrases are: Are you sure your memory is correct? I never said that. You’re being too sensitive. That never happened. You’re imagining it. It’s your fault. I'm only kidding. And so many, many other phrases that all signify that something is wrong with you. Gaslighting is a way of contro … [Read more...] about Are You a Victim of Gaslighting?
Does this sound familiar? I do everything I can think of. I eat a healthy diet. I don't eat enough food and still can't lose the pounds. My calorie intake is hardly anything. I exercise. Why can't I lose weight? More and more we are beginning to understand that weight loss is not always about what you eat or how much you exercise. Yes, these things are important. You are what you eat! Eating lots of vegetables, fruits, nuts, seeds, and any foods that are on the outside … [Read more...] about Why Can’t I Lose Weight?
Some days are just a "one piece in the puzzle kind of day"! A client was sitting on the couch in front of me. She sighed and said, “Some days are just a one piece in the puzzle kind of day!” I laughed out loud – what a wonderful metaphor. I could totally wrap my brain around the concept. I also loved that it felt successful. Even if you only accomplish one thing in a day, that one thing can be mighty significant. The concept came to her as she navigated her way through a series of li … [Read more...] about One Piece in the Puzzle
Self-sabotage is a killer of dreams. Self-Sabotage Definition Have you ever tried to break a habit or achieve a goal and found that you’re your own worst enemy? You set out with great intentions to make a change, and your own self-destructive tendencies make it difficult if not impossible to follow through. You wonder, "Why do I sabotage myself?" If that describes you, you’re not alone. Many people feel weighed down by warring tendencies, even when they really want to make positive changes i … [Read more...] about End Self-Sabotage to Accomplish Your Goals