Gaslighting is a form of abuse when another person denies what you are experiencing and states this denial in a way that makes you think you might be crazy. Common gaslighting phrases are: Are you sure your memory is correct? I never said that. You’re being too sensitive. That never happened. You’re imagining it. It’s your fault. I'm only kidding. And so many, many other phrases that all signify that something is wrong with you. Gaslighting is a way of contro … [Read more...] about Are You a Victim of Gaslighting?
"Care about people's approval and you will be their prisoner. Do your work, then step back, the only path to serenity.” ―Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching This quote most likely resonates with most of us. Yet, we continue to walk around, whether we know it or not, seeking approval. Am I good enough? Likeable enough? Pretty enough? Thin enough? Am I dressed right? What about my hair? What if someone does not approve of you? What if they shun you for being diffe … [Read more...] about You Are Not Broken
And it's not over yet! Whew! Are you feeling it? That collective sigh of relief because we're almost out of this disaster of a year - 2020! Yet still, many are finding themselves struggling with unhealthy habits that either began or were expanded while trying to cope with these emotional times. Many have lost loved ones, jobs, group and social interactions, and community events. If you find yourself in one of these situations...perhaps you want to quit smoking, lose weight, or … [Read more...] about 2020 – What a Year!
Some days are just a "one piece in the puzzle kind of day"! A client was sitting on the couch in front of me. She sighed and said, “Some days are just a one piece in the puzzle kind of day!” I laughed out loud – what a wonderful metaphor. I could totally wrap my brain around the concept. I also loved that it felt successful. Even if you only accomplish one thing in a day, that one thing can be mighty significant. The concept came to her as she navigated her way through a series of li … [Read more...] about One Piece in the Puzzle
Believe it or not, many famous people also suffer from Social Anxiety. Howie Mandel, Whoopi Goldberg, Barbra Streisand, Jennifer Lawrence, Britney Spears, and Adele are a few celebrities who have admitted having this condition. The issue with Social Anxiety is that you feel like you are the only one in the entire world who is suffering with it -- in other words, you feel alone. You are not alone! In fact, Social Anxiety affects some 15 million American adults and usually starts in our teen … [Read more...] about Social Anxiety – Does it keep you from enjoying life?
Healthy friendships are an important part of life. How do you know if you can trust your friends? Brene Brown, the author of The Power of Vulnerability, has a video about her then-third-grade daughter who was betrayed by friends at school. Brene Brown relates that she taught her daughter the Marble Jar Friend concept. Here's a brief video where she tells her story. https://youtu.be/6442YcvEUH8 The Importance of Healthy Friendships How many marbles do you need in your jar before you can … [Read more...] about Healthy Friendships: How Do You Know if Your Friend Is Trustworthy?